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Personal Awareness

Internal cues affect our perception a great deal. If we are not consciously aware of our internal cues and make no effort to control or harness them, then we allow ourselves to be controlled by our emotional states and desires in a way that can harm us. One thing we need to realize, though, is how many internal cues are affected by perception. Understanding the powerful link between perception and internal cues is vital; it can help us control our states and can help us stay motivated enough to act on our goals.

The first way that internal cues are related to perception is the perception we have of internal cues themselves. Our very perception affects how we think of internal cues and how we allow our cues to affect our addiction. For example, we all know people who seem to be at the mercy of their internal cues. If they are feeling restless, they can’t seem to get any work done. The way that they have interpreted their emotional state is it - once they see themselves as restless, they will not settle down and will usually not allow co-workers to get much done either. >>> More in 101 Tips for Overcoming Addiction Directory

Management of Internal Cues

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that internal cues are a specific type of marching order to action that should be taken at face value. If we are suddenly angered by someone who forgets to make a promised call, for example, we will likely think that we are able to identify our internal cues - anger, hurt, feelings of betrayal - quite easily. The problem is that we are likely to link these internal cues mostly or entirely to the action of the person who has not called. We think that we experience unpleasant internal cues because of something that someone has done to us. We may even think that these internal cues should be acted on in certain ways. We may think that we need to express our anger at the non-caller through confrontation. This is a classic example of the way that most of us use internal cues.

Determining what people want from their life is essential to the recovery process. Once a person recognizes what is important they are better able to focus their energies in this areas. >>> More in 101 Tips for Overcoming Addiction Directory

Controlling your Internal Cues

Simply accepting our internal cues and acting on them does not always give us the results we want. In fact, internal cues may well be one of the more misunderstood aspects of self-management or conditioning. The first mistake that many people make is that internal cues are somehow beyond control. Many people view internal cues such as emotional states as vague things which somehow arrive and control behavior. This ensures not only that internal cues are completely ignored, but also allows us to stay controlled by our emotions and thus, deep within our addiction. >>> More in 101 Tips for Overcoming Addiction Directory

Learn the basics of emotional freedom techniques in this free self help healing video

The Basics of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). So now we are going to go over the basic recipe of EFT; or at least my basic recipe of EFT. The first thing that you want to do is figure out what you want to work on. Be very specific. The more specific you are, the better results you will get. And so think about if you had a magic wand and you could fix one thing right now, what would that be. So now that you have your issue, give it a rating. “Zero” is everything is perfect, and “ten” is everything is as bad as it can get. So decide on a rating for what your issue is. And if you don’t know, that’s okay; just guess. So now that you have your rating, we will start with the basic recipe. We’re going to start by tapping on what’s called your karate chop point. And just imagine that if you were to give someone a karate chop, it would be right at that spot right here. So you are going to start tapping on your karate chop point. I use multiple fingers just to over do it, why not? So continually tapping on your karate chop point, you’re going to say a set up phrase three times. And the set-up phrase goes like this: even though I have this problem, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though I have this problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I have this problem, I love and accept myself anyway. Now I said it differently, but the basic idea is that you repeat three times some form of “even though I have this problem..” up to “myself.” And the more emphatic…the more emphatic that you are with the “I deeply and completely accept myself…” So we’ll repeat that again. Even though I have this problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. And that’s what you’ll say three times. Once you’ve done the set-up phrase, then we will tap meridian points with a “reminder phrase.” So the first spot is the eyebrow point which is right at the start of either eyebrow. And you’ll just tap it. I use two fingers. And you’ll tap it about five to seven times as you repeat “this problem.” So it’s just the reminder; you don’t have to do the entire phrase. So it’s “this problem.” The next point is called “side of eye.” And that’s right on the orbit bone on the side of your eye. And you repeat again, “this problem.” Again, it’s about five to seven times. Right under your eye…right in the middle…again, “this problem…” about five to seven times. The next spot is right under your nose, between your nose and your lip. And again, I use two fingers…”this problem.” The next spot is called your “chin.” And it’s right at that middle point…”this problem.” The next spot is called “the collar bone” but it’s not exactly right on the collar bone. So find that indentation right on your chest and then move over and down, ever so slightly, on either side. And I like to use the flat of my fingers and just get the area, and that insures that you are getting the proper point. And again, you are going to tap about five to seven points…”this problem.” The next spot is called “under arm” and it’s about four inches below your armpit, right in the center under your arm. And for women, it’s going to be right about where your bra strap is. And again, I like to overdo it, so I tend to use all three or four fingers and just tap…”this problem.” The next spot is your “liver point.” Sometimes known as “under breast.” And, it’s right…or, let’s see…I’m going to let you try this and kind of figure out what you want to say with it. Sometimes it is also referred to as “under nipple.” But some people get freaked out by that. But your liver point is right on where your ribs are….”this problem.” The next point that I use are the wrists. And it’s generally under your wrists on both sides. And tap them together…”this problem.” And then we end with the top of head which is…if you were to put your thumbs on your ears and just connect on the top of your head where that meets…”this problem.” And that is a basic round of EFT. There are all kinds of things that you can do to complicate it, but that’s enough to get you going.

Your Thyroid and Weight loss – The Connection is Real

Your thyroid dictates much of your metabolism, any malfunction or disease afflicting this area may cause you to have problems in metabolism leading to a drastic problem with your weight – you may either gain weight, lose weight, or may find that losing weight is harder than usual.

Those that plan diets do not take into consideration how their thyroids and metabolism may affect their weight loss program. Most experts and even the media pitch in and recommend that the best way to lose weight is cut calories.

Those with a condition called hyperthyroidism suffer from an overactive thyroid leading to one having his or her metabolism skyrocket. If this is the case, then you will probably lose weight fast. This is a nice proposition for some who wish to lose weight. However, this is actually hazardous to the health.

Aside from the medical difficulties such a disease brings, one will also notice weight problems as a result. These people have trouble keeping on weight and may notice weakness and bulging of the eyes. This disease may need special treatment from doctors.

Hypothyroidism on the other hand works in the other direction – slowing metabolism until the body gains weight at an incredible rate. Like hyperthyroidism, hypothyroidism causes a general weakness in the body. It too may need special treatment and may cause serious health problems if left unattended.

While cutting calories in itself can be very hard for most people – imagine, the people involved in life and death struggles at the supermarket regarding whether to buy that extra box of sweets, some have exactly the opposite problem.

Instead of eating too much calories – which is a problem in itself, they eat too little calories instead.

Problem? What Problem?

The problem with some is that they believe that since the experts say that they have to cut calories, cutting calories to an inordinate amount will reap greater results. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. While cutting calories helps diets, consuming too little calories pushed the body into a hoard mode, the body’s metabolism slow to adapt to the lesser amount of available energy.

If your body enters this mode, your body will work at such slow metabolism that losing weight becomes impossible.  The technique here should be to reduce calories without the body slowing its metabolism. Only then can losing weight become easier.

Another problem that can arise from decreased metabolism is that when your metabolism slows due to a drastic reduction in metabolism, and then you suddenly eat a good, hearty, calorie-filled meal, you are bound to gain more weight owing to the increased surplus of energy.

This is why an imbalanced meal is highly discouraged among those that seek to lose weight. The sudden loss and increase of calories will cause an imbalance in one’s energy consumption directly affecting fat deposit.

Here is a simple computation to help you get to the right amount of calories you will need per day so that you get your nutrients in the right balance.

First of all, multiply your weight in kilograms by 30. If you only know your weight in pounds, divide it by 2.2 to get to its English equivalent. We divide this number by 30 because that is the number of calories you need to maintain your weight per pound of weight.

For example if your weight in pounds is 150, divide it by 2.2. That will give you a figure of 68.18. This is your weight in kilograms. Multiply this by 30 and you will arrive at the amount of calories you will need per day to maintain 150 lbs.

You may consult a nutritionist to help you come lose weight. In the end it all comes down to math. If you consume more that your body needs, it stores it as fat. Now is probably a good time to start studying the back of those grocery cartons.

Try to keep your diet at a 40% protein, 25% fat, and 35% carbohydrate meals at 300 calories per meal. Spread out these meals in a day for optimum results.

While it may be simple computation to get at numbers, do not forget the earlier mentioned fact that the body adapts to its condition. Expose it to extreme ones and you may find yourself getting results you never wanted. Consult a nutritionist for more advice.

Health, Fitness and Beauty - You can find the whole list of 101 ways to get in better shape and stay that way here. Stay tune till my next post. Thank you!

Learn how to achieve your personal peak performance with emotional freedom techniques in this free self help healing video

Improving Performance with Emotional Freedom. One of the things that you can use EFT for is peak performance. And there are all kinds of aspects to peak performances, but one of them is increasing your range of motion. So for now, let’s pick a stretch that you are working on. Remember to be gentle on yourself. But try something that you know you have limited range of motion. So maybe try touching your toes or do a shoulder stretch; something that you are familiar with. So first try the stretch, now rate it. A “zero” is you had a perfect, perfect stretch and you have complete range of motion. And a “ten” is you can barely move. Now that you have your rating, let’s get started. Start at your karate chop point, even though I have this limited range of motion, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I can’t move as much as I want to move, I choose to move freely. Even though I have this protective memory which is keeping me from moving freely, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself anyway. Start at the eyebrow point, this limited range of motion. Side of eye, this stiffness in my body. Under eye, limited range of motion. Under your nose, protective memory in my tissues. Chin, protective memory in my cells. Collar bone, I want to move freely. Under arm, I choose to move freely. Liver point, I will relax into moving freely. Wrist, my cells are open to moving freely. Top of head, this limited range of motion. Now, breathe in. Now try to do the same stretch again. Now do the same stretch again and adjust the rating to what it is right now. And you can continue on to increase, to further increase your range of motion with each round.

Learn how to practice emotional freedom techniques n this free self help healing video

How to Practice Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Okay, so if I had a magic wand and could fix or remove one thing from your life right now, what would that be? [Wow, there's so many. We all have, you know. It would probably have to be not knowing myself; not knowing when to stop. Being an entrepreneur my whole life, and then always just trying to stay so focused on whatever project it is that I won't quit. I don't know when to stop. I want to get it done. So I go down the road and I stay so tunnel-visioned that I won't stop until I complete it. Or even if it goes left and I can't let go, then I might hurt myself financially or physically, mentally.] Right, so, okay, you’re stubborn. [Okay, I'm stubborn.] Okay, and so there’s a fear of stopping. [A fear of stopping; of not succeeding.] Okay, let’s do a simple round on that, we’ll see if we can get some movement. But first, let’s rate it on a scale of zero to ten. “Zero” being the world is fabulous and you have no issue with this. And “ten” being, you just can’t stand it anymore and it’s at it’s worst. [Nine. It's pretty intensive.] Okay. We’re going to play around a little bit with this; just go with me. So start by tapping on your karate chop point. “Even though I’m stubborn [Even though I'm stubborn], and I don’t know when to quit [and I don't know when to quit]; and I’m afraid that if I quit [and I'm afraid that if I quit], I’ll be a failure [I'll be a failure]; and I don’t want to be a failure [and I don't want to be a failure]; I want to succeed[I want to succeed]; I want to exceed [I want to exceed]; I want to win [I want to win]. And I’m so afraid that if I stop [I'm so afraid that if I stop], then I’m not going to get what I want [I'm not going to get what I want]. I deeply and completely love and accept myself [I deeply, deeply accept myself]. And completely [I completely accept myself]. Okay. Even though I’m really stubborn [Even though I'm really stubborn]. And even though I know I’m going down the wrong path [Even though I know I'm going down the wrong path], I just can’t seem to stop [I just can't seem to stop] because I really still want to succeed [I just want to succeed]. And I’m afraid that if I don’t stay true to this path [I'm afraid that if I don't stay true to this path], then I’m going to be a failure [then I'm going to be a failure]. And I’m afraid of being a failure [I'm afraid of being a failure]. I deeply and completely accept myself anyway. [I deeply and completely accept myself anyway.] Even though I have this fear of being a failure [Even though I have this fear of being a failure] and that makes me hold on too hard to things I know [and that makes me hold on too hard to things I know], to things that I know are not going to serve me [to things that I know are not going to serve me], I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway [I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway]. I accept my fears. [I accept my fears.] I accept myself completely. [I accept myself completely.] Okay. Eyebrow…”this fear of failure.” [This fear of failure.] Side of eye…”it makes me stubborn.” [It makes me stubborn.] Under your eye…”I don’t know when to quit.” [I don't know when to quit.] Under your nose…”all these fears of failure.” [All these fears of failure.] Your chin…”this fear.” [This fear.] Collarbone…”I don’t know when to quit. [I don't know when to quit.] Under your arm…I’m afraid to quit. [I'm afraid to quit.] Liver point…”what if I quit right before success.” [What if I quit right before success.] Wrists…”I’m afraid to quit.” [I'm afraid to quit.] Top of head…”but I want to quit.” [But I want to quit.] Keep going…”this fear of success.” [This fear of success.] Side of eye…”this fear of failure.” [This fear of failure.] Under eye…”this fear.” [This fear.] Under your nose…”so many fears.” [So many fears.] Chin…”this fear of success.” [This fear of success.] “I’m afraid to quit. [I'm afraid to quit.] “I don’t want to continue.” [I don't want to continue.] “But I don’t know how to quit.” [But I don't know how to quit.] “Because I have this fear of failure.” [Because I have this fear of failure.] “This fear of failure.” [This fear of failure.] Okay, breathe in. How would you rate it right now. Zero to ten, did we get any movement? [Probably about a six.] Okay, so good, we got some movement.